“How You Doing?”
It’s a question we often ask and are asked but rarely give the real answer to, so for today I ask How are You, really how you doing?
Today I am actually feeling good. I haven’t blogged in a while so it feels great to write and to write about something close to my heart- Mental Health!
I’m excited for May and the feelings a new month brings. This last year has been extremely hard I’ve gone through a breakthrough, in and out of hospitals with my mother, then she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, becoming a caregiver, work shit, people shit, the rising cost of everything, and then April omg April was chaos on wheels, let me tell you lol!
It took everything in me to remain grounded (cool, calm & collected) while worrying that my privacy was being viloated. On the outside I was doing my best to keep it together (didn’t want to ruin my friend’s bday weekend) on the inside I was falling apart. My mind took a deep dive into every negative, shameful, and fearful thing I could think of and I literally cried for the next 5 days. A feeling that I had made a terrible decision to take this trip sucked the life out of me (overwhelmed) and so I spiraled alone (isolation)in my room. DEPRESSED
Before this trip I had been talking about needing to disconnect and how I wanted to be present, I said things like:
“I want to get of social media”
“I want to focus on growing FYL”
“I want to become more disciplined in my rituals & practices”
Well the Universe said I got you- but shit did I really have to loose my phone to do all that?! This was not apart of the vision I had for myself, so now I am being extremely specific with how I want to experience my life. It is an absolute MUST to think and speak intentionally and phrase my words in a way that aligns with my highest good. I want to be a willingly participant in my lived experiences not forced!
When it comes to treating our mental health I know there’s no simple solution to the complexities it presents, we are all dealing with our own unique situations. Personally I struggle with ruminating on the past, self-esteem, irritability, I can isolate, and a few other characteristics that lead to depression. However I’ve come to learn that for me there is something beautiful and life-changing about grounding myself in the present. From this space I gain clarity, awareness, and appreciation for my life, which is how I want to feel.
Now I get that it can be difficult to feel this way all the time, even some of the time- it takes a real deliberate effort to choose mental strength and hold yourself in the space of feeling good. Because of this I do my best to check in with myself and be aware of how I am, this allows me the ability to answer truthfully of how I’m doing. When I show up in this way my emotions have the room to breathe and I embody permission of what it looks and feels like to fully be myself.
I live my Truth